Tell me if this sounds familiar, you pick up your beloved child from school and ask about his or her day…and you’re met with either a shrug or “fine”.

Here’s a pretty common exchange in our house…

“Hey honey, how was your day?”
“Fine.”
 
“What did you do at school today?”
“I don’t know.”
 
“Hmmm, what do you mean you don’t know?”
“I don’t remember.”
 
“Can you tell me ONE THING?”
“I don’t remember mom.”
 
“Ok, did you make anything, like an art project or something?”
“yes.”
 
“Oh what was it ?”
“ugh…I don’t remember mom, please stop asking me already!”
 

FRUSTRATING! I don’t know what it is, but general questions about what happened during the school day are never well received.

I learned pretty quickly that if I wanted to find out how my son’s day was and what was happening in his life, I had to be really strategic.

As parents, we obviously want to know what’s happening with our kids when they’re not with us. And we definitely want to know how their school experience is going.

In fact, two of the questions below helped me discover a bullying situation that was happening at my own son’s school!

To get to the bottom of your child’s school day, you’re going to need to ask questions that require more than “yes”, “no” or “fine” for an answer.

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Here’s 20 clever questions to get your child talking about their school day.

Oftentimes you’ll find that once you get the ball rolling, your kids will naturally open up and share more.

Good luck!

    1. Who did you play with at recess?
    2. Who did you sit next to in class?
    3. What is your favorite part of school?
    4. What is your least favorite part of school?
    5. Who did you help today at school?
    6. What was the book you read at story time today?
    7. What was the funniest thing that happened in your class today?
    8. What’s the most interesting thing you heard at school today?
    9. If you could change just ONE thing about your school, what would it be?
    10. If you had $1,000 to buy something for your school, what would you buy?
    11. What was the most fun thing you did today at recess?
    12. Which kid got in trouble for something today?
    13. Tell me about one thing you learned today?
    14. Who are your three very best friends?
    15. What was the hardest thing you did today?
    16. What do you like most about your teacher?
    17. What are you looking forward to learning in school tomorrow/this week/this month?
    18. When I went to school there were some kids that were a kind of mean and used to tease other kids, have you noticed anything like that at your school?
    19. Who is the nicest person in your class?
    20. Do you have a class pet? If not, and you could choose one…what would you pick?

Talking to our kids about school is a great opportunity to discover how our children are doing, adjusting, learning and getting along with peers and teachers.  

It’s also a good way to pick up on any potential bullying type situations so you can intervene before they get out of hand.

I learned about the bullying situation at my son’s school when I asked him #4, what the least favorite part of the day was and #9, what he’d like to change at his school. I would’ve never known if I hadn’t asked those questions.

Related: Parent Alert – Possible Signs Your Child Is Being Bullied

So the next time you child clams up, try pulling out this list of clever questions to get your child talking about their school day. It may be just what you need to break the ice and get a conversation started.

 

 

 

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